I have always enjoyed learning new things. Learning languages has been always something that I have found extremely insightful to understand human behavior.
I have started to pay more attention to what people say but also to what they truly mean. Being a foreigner and not a native speaker, it is a little bit harder to understand all the cultural and social connections associated with some words. Some are more obvious and used as slang… These are less critical as it is usual not expected for foreigners to master. However words that are more incorporated with social norms are more critical.
Language is a tool infinitely flexible and can be used for various purposes. For instance, the Japanese language is quite structured around one’s social standing.
Language adds an additional layer to meaning. Furthermore, it can be used for conveying information to others. Abstracting from your own language to talk consciously is either impossible or an immense undertaking.
“Ich freue mich darauf! “
It is common to associate Germans or other central European cultures to more cold hearted individuals, which I have identified as a limitation from explicit social norms. However, when you look deep and eliminate prejudice, you will quickly realize that they can be extremely deep in their feelings as well.
A good example is how they express their happiness about something. One might simply say that “I’m happy that you came to my party”, but a german would use the expression “Ich freue mich… “. This expression means more than just happiness… It’s almost a self celebration for something.
While Latin people can turn to be more physical and express vocally strong feelings, it doesn’t mean that they are actually feeling what they say.
“Ich gönne dir deine Erfolg.”
Another powerful feeling I came to understand is the happyness for something or someone without asking anything in return. Simply pure empathy for someone else’s achievement. That can be expressed with a verb in german language, gönnen. This verb alone expresses many complex feelings all together. Trying to explain all the subtle details using any other language that I know, it requires many more words and sentences.
Mitgefühl vs. Compassion
Looking to the roots of some words, you also learn how to apply properly the word in a certain context. The particular example of compassion (with passion), differs if you apply a southern European connotation or Central European one.
In Portugal, for example, feeling compassion is something positive that allows you to love alongside other people. While in a german context implies that you recognize and understand the feeling someone else is demonstrating, but you don’t necessarily have to feel the same way.
Remember to listen even if you are talking
These are great examples on how we need to pay more attention to listening and interpreting words… Associate them with context beyond the situation itself and understand the person that is saying it beyond the obvious culture, social or education tags.
If you’re focusing on words, it’s like focusing on the person rather than the individual you’ve got facing you. You’re moving forward, and by utilizing a different word you’re placing yourself in an advantageous situation at which you can do something. Words are symbols meant for expressing ideas whenever you have ideas. Reeling off words that sound as though they connect to the camouflaged target could possibly be one good means to pull the term from the bushes.
You might not be able to modify your emotions, but you may change your feelings, or the way you express them. It might be very troubling to learn that our emotions are in reality influenced by our genes. Emotions are physical signals which our body is perpetually giving us. Attempting to escape or hide emotions can create a lot of issues for the man or woman holding them. They play a huge part in our performance and productivity. Individuals sometimes consider emotions as chaotic in the feeling they can be unpredictable, and for men and women who have poor emotional regulation they certainly can be. Since you may see, emotions and feelings are merely two shades of the identical color.
It’s possible for you to share your feelings regarding an event or a different individual’s choice or behavior, but you should be cautious not to attack the other individual. It does not have to be difficult that you forget you have feelings whenever you don’t pay a whole lot of conscious attention to them. Hidden feelings can be extremely destructive of the person having them and the folks around them.
When using, “I feel” statements, you wish to share your feelings in a way that may be heard by the other individual. Feelings are a lot richer, have a lot more layers, and run a good deal deeper than emotions. If you’ve got strong personal feelings about a part of work that might be limiting your capacity to give objective feedback, consider why you could possibly be feeling a particular way and explain it as such.